Before a fall…

How often have we all felt that way? When we say those words to ourselves, or to others, do we recognize that we are doing so because our pride has been wounded?

Pride is part of our human nature. The American Heritage Dictionary defines pride as, "A sense of one's own proper dignity or value; self-respect." Self-respect, properly harnessed, can prevent us from saying or doing things that could bring disgrace on ourselves or our families. After all, "A good name is better than precious ointment" (Ecclesiastes 7:1). It is not wrong to recognize that we have value; indeed, every human being has value in the eyes of the Creator who has given us the potential to become members of His family.

However, when our self-respect is not properly channeled, it can become an unhealthy pride and can lead us to disaster. "Pride goes before destruction and a haughty spirit before a fall" (Proverbs 16:18). Another dictionary definition of pride is, "Arrogant or disdainful conduct or treatment; haughtiness." Our Creator does not bless those who arrogantly flaunt their pride and demean others. "Whoever secretly slanders his neighbor, him I will destroy; the one who has a haughty look and a proud heart, him I will not endure" (Psalm 101:5).

The words we speak reveal what is in our heart. If we control our desire to announce our inward sense of self-importance, we can avoid many potential confrontations. "Whoever guards his mouth and tongue keeps his soul from troubles" (Proverbs 21:23). Who among us cannot remember a time when we let our pride run wild, and as a result suffered the penalty of damaged reputation and wounded relationships? "A proud and haughty man — 'Scoffer' is his name; he acts with arrogant pride" (v. 24).

Let us consider one final dictionary definition of pride, "An excessively high opinion of oneself; conceit." Every one of us has God-given talents, but do we use them to serve others or to exalt ourselves? People can even detect our conceit by observing how we walk and talk. Our posture, our grooming, and the care we take in presenting ourselves to others all send messages about our level of vanity, and about our approach to God. Just as a slovenly appearance speaks volumes about one's character, so too does a "flashy" appearance that draws undue attention. If the people around you cannot remember what you wore yesterday, you are probably achieving a healthy balance between the two extremes. Modest, clean clothing with a tasteful accent of color is always in style.

Do we become angry when others fail to give us the honor we think we deserve? Outbursts of anger can also reveal a prideful heart. "An angry man stirs up strife and a furious man abounds in transgression. A man's pride will bring him low, but the humble in spirit will retain honor" (Proverbs 29:22-23). If we fail to conquer our pride, it will bring us into all kinds of trouble. "When pride comes, then comes shame; but with the humble is wisdom. The integrity of the upright will guide them, but the perversity of the unfaithful will destroy them" (Proverbs 11:2-3). Humility is an antidote to pride.

God tells us to put away our pride and arrogance, and to submit to Him for our own good. Only He can save us. The pride we have in our own abilities will always fail in the end. "Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time, casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you" (1 Peter 5:6-7). This is what God expects of Christians.

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